DBT Begins (with a little help from my coffee)
The question we must ask ourselves is how much are we willing to settle for? Are you happy enough with your life? Is it all you ever imagined it to be? Does it meet your expectations? If not, why are you still here? It is so easy to fold into the darkness and let your fate carry you away without a direction of your choosing. But believe me when I say, you are in control.
There is a quote I like that says, "If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten." There comes a point where you need to step up and change, and that is what I am trying to do myself.
I was anxious today when I first got to the hospital to start my DBT program. I had my first coffee and then settled into the group ok. We started off with emotional regulation. It’s very intense and quite a hard concept to wrap your head around, especially in the beginning, but once you implement the skills into your life, they actually do work. We don’t need to label an emotion as ‘bad’ or ‘good’, but rather name the actual emotion such as happy, sad, scared, excited, confused. If we understand the emotion we are feeling, it is easier to deal with it in a constructive and safe manner. Being in a group to learn these skills means you get the valuable insight that others might have into something you are struggling with. There are no judgements, just understanding. Two more coffees later and I felt like a part of the group. I want to share some of the process that I am going through in hopes that it might inspire you to look at your problems in a different light. I like to believe that there is always a tiny bit of light in any dark situation, and if you can’t see that at the moment, you can share in another’s hope for you.May be my blog can reach you in whatever impenetrable sadness you find yourself in and may be it will help. That’s my hope. Go forth and conquer your emotions.